Espesyal ang babae sa Pilipinas. Hangga't hindi siya nag-aasawa'y nakatira siya sa bahay ng kanyang mga magulang. At
kung hindi siya makapag-asawa, malamang na hindi na siya humiwalay sa mga ito. Sapagka't ang estado ng dalaga'y bale
iang protektadong uri, hindi rin siya maaring mauna sa pagpahayag ng kanyang pag-ibig. Kailangang maghintay siya
hanggang lumipat ang lalake at mamintuho. Ang babaeng hindi marunong maghintay nang tahimik at nagpapahalatang gusto
niya ang isang lalake ay ipinapalagay na magaspang -- isang atrebida. Malamang na takbuhan siya ng mga lalake.
Kapag npusuan ng isang lalake ang isang babae ay mangyayari ang ligawan. Una'y humihingi ng pahintulot na makadalaw sa
bahay ng babae ang lalake. Kapag pumayag ito, ibig sabihin ay may pag-asa ang lalake. Sa pagpanhik ng lalake, malamang
na salubungin siya ng mag-anak. Uusisain muna ang kanyang angkan at pinagmulan, kung ano ang trbaho niya at sino ang
mga kaibigan niya. Kung dati nang kilala ang manliligaw ay malamang na sandali lamang ang usapang ito. Pagkatapos ay
tatawagin na ang dalaga at hahayaan nang mag-usap ang dalawa.
Ang oras ng pag-akyat ng ligaw ay sa hapon o sa gabi. Pagkatapos ng isyesta at bago maghapunan; o kaya'y sa gabi,
matpaos ang hapunan. Kapag dumating nang wala sa oras ang isang manliligaw ay sasabihing ugaling Tsino ito o Tsino na
nga. Ang ibig ipahiwatig ay tila hindi nakakaintindi ng ugaling Pilipino ang taong ito. Ang mga oras na ito'y itinakda
sa ligawan dahil sa ilang kadahilanan. Una'y tapos na ang gawaing may kinalaman sa pagluluto at pagsisinop ng bahay.
Ikalawa, kung gusto ng dinadalaw na umalis na ang bisita, madaling sabihin na pasensiya't kailangang maghanda na ng
hapunan o kaya'y dapat nang matulog. Saka pa, sa mga oras na ito'y nakaayos na ang babae at malayong datnan ng
mamimintuho na mukhang mangkukulam.
Sa probinsiya ay may kaugalian ng paninilbinhan. Ang isang lalakking manliligaw ay nagtratrabaho sa bahay ng babae
habang tinitingnan ng mga magulang kung mahusay na tao nga siya. Naroong mag-igib siya ng tuboig, magputol ng kahoy,
magtanim, mag-ayos ng bakuran. Pagkatapos ay uuwi siya't magbibihis at dadalaw sa babae. Ang ligawan ay simple lamang.
Maghaharap ang lalaki't babae sa isang sesilay sa balkon o sa sala. Siyempre, palagi silang natatanaw ng mga
nakatatanda. Kundi man ay may bantay na nakababatang kapatid ng babae.
Kung lumabas ang nagliligawan, mayroon din silang bantay--isang kapatid na bata o nakatatanda. Mangyari'y hindi dapat
mapulaan ang reputasyon ng babae. Kung hindi man magkatuluyan ang dalawa'y hindi masasabi ng lalaki nanagalaw niya ang
babae.
itong huli ang pinkadominante sa panahon ng ligawan. Bawa't kapritso ng babae'y sinusunod ng lalake. Panay rin ang
regalo't dalaw ng nanliligaw. Madalas ay pinahihirapan muna ng babae ang lalake bago siya poumayag na pakasal rito.
Bale ba'y bumabawi lamang siya. Pagkatapos ng kasal ay ang lalaki kasi ang nasusunod sa tahanan.
Men: Beware Of Your Emotions
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I just lost my man about three months ago though he is back again full of love and passion with the help of great man Dr. IKHIDE. I NORAH PEDRO from Norway, have been into a relationship with daniel mark since I was 22 years old and I am 28 now. I so much love him but I could not show the love, it was very difficult for me to prove my realness to him because I thought to prove my love to him might make him look down on me and go after other girls. for over six years Daniel has given me all that I ask of him. I always threatened him with break up each time I want to see his level of love for me because I was told if I threaten him, he will propose to me and then will get married to him before I can show my love despite his complains of him not sure of my love I was responding to him with negative words. though I was suspecting he has another girl in his life, I did not border to ask him about that because I was so sure of his love despite my attitude. on the 8th of September a day to my birthday he came and gave me so many lovely gifts like never before claiming to wish me a happy birthday in advance with his words and behavior I expected him to propose to me on my birthday night then I will also tell him of my pregnant for him. I wait for him on my birthday he did not show up not even a call, I tried his number and it was not going through I refuse to go check on him because the anger in me six days later I went to his house and I found nothing not even a sign of my Daniel once live there. I was disappointed, frustrated, confused with so many thoughts on my mind like hanging my self if I did not see him again because I can not my parent about the pregnancy when the man responsible for it had disappeared. our religion's against that, my family will be disappointed in me, I have brought them shame. I look for daniel everywhere till I could chat with him on social network, he warned me never to disturb him again because he already had found another girl that he wants to live his life with, after a while, he blocked me from all access then I could not tell him of my pregnancy for him. so, I needed help from all corners of life, I decide to check to google my self or read some write up on-site on how to coup with my pain because I could not tell anybody about it not even my friends were aware of my pregnancy. I keep reading to cancel my self till I find how Dr. IKHIDE helps so many persons from different walks of life with their testimonies. then I decide to also contact him with dr.ikhide@gmail.com. Because I do not know much about contacting a spell caster, I was not sure he can bring my Dan back but I decide to give him a try though his requirement was another problem I meet with a friend for help because I could not the items that he needed I have to plead with Dr. IKHIDE to help me get the items because really need my man back to take away my shame. just two days after I send him the requirement Daniel calls me, plead for forgiveness. just yesterday he propose to me and I am so happy. you can also contact him with dr.ikhide@gmail.com
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